I often hear people complaining others to hold double standards - one on 'self' and one on 'others'. This could be extended to one set of rules for 'mates' and another for 'non-mates'. I would not be over-generalizing if I say this is practised by everyone and everywhere - consciously or subconsciously!
For example:
I'll always go for Yum Cha at this particular Chinese Restaurant. Why? I knew the manager for years, if there is a long queue, I'll be given a 'back-door' entrance to a table in no time : ) Sorry, this is our Chinese traditional way of doing business by 'Gwang-Xi'
Here is another personal story but this time my privilege position was reversed:
I recently returned to Sydney, .Australia, from Istanbul-Munich-HK with a full suit-case, even I declared everything to custom and showed them the 2 boxes of candies I got, the custom officers wanted me to open my suit-case ( probably didn’t trust me). They checked it from top to bottom to find nothing more that requires declaring. The Anglo- couple in front of me got an easy ride to the exit gate, also got some candies in their hand luggage!
You might be able to relate to these two stories. I congratulate you if you are more often on the favourable side of the double standards. Unfortunately, as a non-white and a migrant to the Land of Oz speaking English as a second language, majority of the times I'm on the other side.
However, you don't have to worry that I would be too upset or too depressed! Don't forget I call myself a health researcher; I put my private detective's hat on to explain social phenomena and how they would affect people's health. In order for these experiences to not to have a negative influence on one's health - just brush it off with a laugh ; )
Look on the funny side of things!
